Movie: It Ends With Us

 

What level of audacity can one person have to ask a girl you just met to have sex with you???

and to all you girls ... would you have sex to a person whom you just met??? ... it's not even summer mind you...

what makes you easily fall head over heels with someone?

how to spot red flag/s...?

WARNING: 

I believe this movie can trigger a lot of emotions

deep and burried in ones soul ... 

Watch this movie with an open heart and mind .... 

and wide understanding. 

Let's meet the characters... 

Ryle - a very attractive "love at first sight kind of guy" neurosurgeon but with behavioral problem. He also has a traumatic past that shaped his wholebeing despite being a reliable person as per his profession. 

Lilly - a wonderful and passional businesswoman with a traumatic past from her family. She is passionate about flowers and very much easy to fall in love.  

Here's what I've realized while and after watching the movie ... 

Disclaimer:

This is just my personal opionion and base on my point of view ...

kindly read and interpret with a little grain of salt. Thank you.

Sometimes, abused persons don't really have that strength to walk away from a certain kind of situations ... like an abusive one ... that is why, people who are in a kind of relationship needs saving and enlightenment from the situation they are in ... which some cannot see nor understands.   

Fortunately, there are brave people and people who saves the victims ... they are definitely warriors ... for they don't know what lies ahead of them after saving the victim   

they don't know the retaliation of their actions or from the person whom they are saving ...

for they don't know how deep the wounds of each victim ... 

they don't know the severity of damage a trauma person has experienced ...  

But we cannot judge them ... those kinds of people are not born as is with that kind of character ... we must remember that life can shape people in so many ways, and it's often a complex mix of experiences, environments, and perhaps innate predispositions that contribute to who we become. Narcissistic personality traits can indeed be a result of various life circumstances and traumas, creating protective mechanisms that can be challenging for both the individual and those around them.

Understanding and compassion are crucial. While we might not always be able to "save" someone, we can offer empathy and support. Change often requires a desire from the individual themselves, and the path to self-awareness and transformation can be long and difficult.

It's important to remember that while we might see the effects of life's circumstances, every person has a unique story and journey. Embracing that complexity can help us navigate relationships with those who exhibit narcissistic traits with a bit more understanding and care.

xx

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FAVORITE QUOTES:  

"necessity is the mother of invention"

"Life should be like plants ... 
you take care of it ...
make time for it ... 
in the end, it will reward you with flowers or produce .. . 
but when you don't take care of it ... it will definitely wither and die"  

 

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DEFINITION: 

as per brother Google 

Childhood Trauma: 

Childhood trauma refers to experiences that are emotionally or physically distressing and occur during a person's developmental years. These experiences can have a long-lasting impact on an individual's mental, emotional, and sometimes physical well-being. Childhood trauma can take many forms, including:

1. Abuse: Physical, emotional, or sexual abuse by a caregiver, family member, or another individual.

2. Neglect: A lack of proper care, affection, or support, resulting in emotional or physical harm.

3. Witnessing Violence: Observing domestic violence, community violence, or other traumatic events. (this is what happened to Lilly as her childhood trauma)  

4. Loss: The death of a parent, caregiver, or loved one, leading to profound emotional distress. (this is what happened to Ryle with the death of his brother)

5. Separation: Prolonged separation from a parent or primary caregiver, such as due to divorce, hospitalization, or foster care.

6. Medical Trauma: Experiences related to severe illness, injury, or medical procedures.

The effects of childhood trauma can manifest in various ways, including anxiety, depression, difficulties in forming relationships, behavioral issues, and even physical health problems. It's important to recognize that every individual's response to trauma is unique, and what may be traumatic for one person may not be for another.


Seeking professional help, such as therapy or counseling, can be crucial for individuals who have experienced childhood trauma. Support from trusted adults, healthy relationships, and therapeutic interventions can help in the healing process.

Gaslighting Meaning: 

Gaslighting is a form of psychological manipulation in which a person or group makes someone question their own reality, memory, or perceptions. This term comes from the 1938 play "Gas Light," and has been increasingly used to describe this type of behavior.

Key elements of gaslighting include:

1. Denial: Insisting that past events did not happen or that the victim is misremembering.

2. Contradiction: Frequently contradicting the victim’s thoughts and feelings to create doubt and confusion.

3. Manipulation: Using lies, misinformation, or selective information to control the victim.

4. Isolation: Gradually isolating the victim from friends, family, or support systems to increase dependence.

5. Discrediting: Telling others that the victim is confused, unreliable, or emotionally unstable.

Gaslighting can be incredibly damaging, eroding the victim’s confidence and self-worth. It's often found in abusive relationships but can occur in other dynamics, including workplaces or even friendships.

It's important to recognize the signs of gaslighting and seek support if you or someone you know may be experiencing it. Trusting your own perceptions and seeking out validation from trusted sources can help counteract its effects.

 

Narcissist Behavior Meaning: 

Narcissistic behavior typically involves a pattern of characteristics and actions that revolve around an inflated sense of self-importance and a deep need for admiration, often accompanied by a lack of empathy for others. Some key traits and behaviors associated with narcissism include:

1. Grandiosity: An exaggerated sense of one’s own achievements and talents.

2. Need for excessive admiration: Constantly seeking attention and praise.

3. Sense of entitlement: Expecting special treatment and automatic compliance with their expectations.

4. Exploitive relationships: Taking advantage of others to achieve their own ends.

5. Lack of empathy: Being unable or unwilling to recognize the needs and feelings of others.

6. Envy of others: Believing others are envious of them or being envious of others.

7. Arrogant attitudes and behaviors: Exhibiting haughty behaviors and attitudes.

These behaviors can significantly impact relationships and can be challenging for both the individual displaying these traits and those around them. It's also worth noting that narcissism exists on a spectrum, and not everyone with narcissistic traits has Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), which is a clinical diagnosis. 

Understanding these behaviors can help foster empathy and better management strategies in dealing with such individuals.

 

SANE Exam: 

A SANE Exam (Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner Exam) is a specialized medical forensic examination conducted by a trained nurse to collect evidence and provide care to individuals who have experienced sexual assault. 

Here are some key points about the SANE Exam:

1. Evidence Collection: The exam involves collecting physical evidence such as bodily fluids, DNA, and other materials that may be present on the victim's body.
2. Medical Care: The nurse provides immediate medical care, including treatment for injuries, prevention of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), and emergency contraception if needed.
3. Documentation: The nurse documents any physical and emotional trauma experienced by the victim.
4. Confidentiality: The exam is confidential, and the victim has the right to have an advocate present during the exam.
5. Non-Reporting: The victim does not have to report the assault to law enforcement to receive a SANE Exam, but the collected evidence can be used if they choose to report later.

The primary goal of a SANE Exam is to ensure the victim's well-being while preserving evidence that can be used in a criminal investigation. It's a compassionate and trauma-informed approach to care. 

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again ... just to stress my point (hahaha)  

Narcissistic and gaslighting behaviors are not by birth ... 

I don't think it is either a choice ... 

but it was caused by life's circumstances ... 

unfortunately, that's the effect on some people ... 

it became what they are now ... 

and ... we don't know if we can even save them 

or if they also want to be saved in the first place 

what I believe is that they are products of life's unfortunate circumstances ... 

Mingling with one might not be our cup of tea, but I am always happy that there are those people who has a big heart and time to take care of people with such behavior ... Remember, they are not hopeless, but they just need a little more caring than just receiving bare minimum. 

Now, what is your naked truth? 

... leave in the comments, 

... let's share thoughts 

xx