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Standing with the Philippines: Our Hearts Go Out to the Victims of Super Typhoon UWAN

​The recent passage of Super Typhoon UWAN (known internationally as Fung-Wong) has left a devastating trail across the Philippines, particularly impacting communities still recovering from earlier storms. Our hearts ache for the millions of individuals and families who are now grappling with loss, displacement, and the monumental task of recovery. ​The Scale of the Struggle ​UWAN was a ferocious storm, bringing catastrophic winds, torrential rain, and massive flooding to vast areas across Luzon and the Visayas. The human cost is immense: ​ Mass Displacement: Over 2.4 million people across 15 regions have been affected, with hundreds of thousands displaced from their homes, many now sheltering in evacuation centers. ​ Hardest Hit Areas: The impact has been particularly severe in the Bicol Region (with Catanduanes reported as one of the hardest-hit provinces), Oriental Mindoro , Aurora , Isabela , and the Cordillera Administrative Region . Reports detail widespread ...
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The Invalidation Trap

"Do not invalidate my feelings!" 


Sounds familiar? has someone told you that recently? ... have you happened to invalidate someone's feeling and thinking that you just want to boost them to see the other side of the coin? 


According to Happiness Tip, research shows that when we validate our loved ones' emotions, they receive a considerable bump in long-term well-being. However, we seem to have strong drive to do exactly the opposite and invalidate their feelings. We want to tell them they're overreacting. We want them to see that they're seeing the situation incorrectly. We may just want them to stop having that feelings altogether and take our advice for solving the problem. 


Instead, we need to realize that these situations are really a test for us. Do we pass the test by validating feelings and deepening the bond? or do we fail the test by falling into the invalidation trap and damaging the bond? 




So the next time you feel like responding "sobrang OA!" on a Klarisse level. Maybe we should pause for a bit, think for a second ... because we might be responding badly in somewhat already bad situation kind of day for someone. 


Let's not normalize the sobrang OA feels, because we don't know if a person is acting in a certain way because of their past experiences. 


Can you think of times when you validated feelings? What about times when you didn't?  


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